I have officially decided yesterday that I will never be over helpful to any of my friends. Actually this topic have been far discussed between my dear friend, Chenghan, and me. Initially I was against his idea of a matching theory, but after thinking for a good 2 months, I realise I could not find much fault with what he have said.

In a normal capitalism market, you pay for what you get. Meaning there is a trade done by party A and party B. Party A may produce a product which part B is happy with, so party B will part with his cash and give it to Party A. The product gives a level of happiness in B and the cash will also give a level of happiness in A. So in short, both of them are happy, cause they exchange something. 1 gave and 1 got a return.

In relationship it is the same. When you give something, you expect something in return. When there is no returns, you will feel unappreciated.

Many of you guys reading my blog are either my primary school, sec school, JI, work friends. So to put it rather bluntly and in your face – this blog entry is for you. Of course that does not mean if you are reading this, means that you have irked me.

I’m not angry when I think of it, more of disappointed. There are so many so many incidents. But if I voice out the incident, no matter if it is right or wrong the other party would be offended. Maybe because of pride or ego. But people tend to be defensive when criticised.

I don’t want to harp much on what happen recently or before. I repeat myself, its a cumulative thing. I don’t want to shock anyone with my actions in future, thus I will list down the things I will NOT do anymore. If anyone do not understand, or do not agree, think about it, which friend have been more steady than me. I dare to say it in any of my friends face, more often than not, I most steady. If you do not think so, maybe a lot of things you have forgotten or maybe you just thought it was ”easy” to do. Or maybe you thought that I SHOULD do it.

And it’s not I meant to be fair all the way. Or does it mean im being gei gao. Its really about being know how to ”cho lang (hokkien)”. I really don’t see it.

The Randy-will-not-do-anymore list to the not deserving:

1) I will not fetch anyone to anywhere unless super on the way.

2) KL trip being the last trip that I consolidate or organise any events (includes friday, saturday, sunday outings).

3) I will not offer to pay first. Definitely.

4) I will not treat anyone anymore.

5) I will not give my 2 cents.

Actually in fact, as you can see where im coming from, im really not interested anymore to go out. I will only go if i enjoy it, and not to maintain a relationship. Unless the other party whom  ask me out have wanted to maintain a relationship with me. If not i will only go if i know i will enjoy myself.

I really think that I have wasted my time on some group of friends. In fact, I felt i spend so much effort in maintaining these relationships that I neglected people whom are appreciative of me. In fact I will go as far to say that not only did i try maintaining my friendship with my own friends, i also tried to maintain friendships of my friends. As in I hope friend A will have a good relationship with friend B.

Ok have nothing much to say already. Comments have been deactivated cause I do not want to go into any debate. As I mention, I thought for a good 2 months. And in these 2 months, I start to look out at how everyone acted in every situation. Really disappointing. Fact is humans are very selfish people, very very disappointing.

”Causes Stain, Stay Away!”

“IF you really want to know why the financial system nearly collapsed in the
fall of 2008, I can tell you in one simple sentence.”

The statement came from a man sitting three or four stools away from me in a
sparsely populated Midtown bar, where I was waiting for a friend. “But I have to
buy you a drink to hear it?” I asked.

“Absolutely not,” he said. “I can buy my own drinks. My 401(k) is intact. I got
out of the market 8 or 10 years ago, when I saw what was happening.”

He did indeed look capable of buying his own drinks — one of which, a dry
martini, straight up, was on the bar in front of him. He was a well-preserved,
gray-haired man of about retirement age, dressed in the same sort of clothes he
must have worn on some Ivy League campus in the late ’50s or early ’60s — a
tweed jacket, gray pants, a blue button-down shirt and a club tie that, seen
from a distance, seemed adorned with tiny brussels sprouts.

“O.K.,” I said. “Let’s hear it.”

“The financial system nearly collapsed,” he said, “because smart guys had
started working on Wall Street.” He took a sip of his martini, and stared
straight at the row of bottles behind the bar, as if the conversation was now
over.

“But weren’t there smart guys on Wall Street in the first place?” I asked.

He looked at me the way a mathematics teacher might look at a child who, despite
heroic efforts by the teacher, seemed incapable of learning the most rudimentary
principles of long division. “You are either a lot younger than you look or you
don’t have much of a memory,” he said. “One of the speakers at my 25th reunion
said that, according to a survey he had done of those attending, income was now
precisely in inverse proportion to academic standing in the class, and that was
partly because everyone in the lower third of the class had become a Wall Street
millionaire.”

I reflected on my own college class, of roughly the same era. The top student
had been appointed a federal appeals court judge — earning, by Wall Street
standards, tip money. A lot of the people with similarly impressive academic
records became professors. I could picture the future titans of Wall Street
dozing in the back rows of some gut course like Geology 101, popularly known as
Rocks for Jocks.

“That actually sounds more or less accurate,” I said.

“Of course it’s accurate,” he said. “Don’t get me wrong: the guys from the lower
third of the class who went to Wall Street had a lot of nice qualities. Most of
them were pleasant enough. They made a good impression. And now we realize that
by the standards that came later, they weren’t really greedy. They just wanted a
nice house in Greenwich and maybe a sailboat. A lot of them were from families
that had always been on Wall Street, so they were accustomed to nice houses in
Greenwich. They didn’t feel the need to leverage the entire business so they
could make the sort of money that easily supports the second oceangoing yacht.”

“So what happened?”

“I told you what happened. Smart guys started going to Wall Street.”

“Why?”

“I thought you’d never ask,” he said, making a practiced gesture with his
eyebrows that caused the bartender to get started mixing another martini.

“Two things happened. One is that the amount of money that could be made on Wall
Street with hedge fund and private equity operations became just mind-blowing.
At the same time, college was getting so expensive that people from reasonably
prosperous families were graduating with huge debts. So even the smart guys went
to Wall Street, maybe telling themselves that in a few years they’d have so much
money they could then become professors or legal-services lawyers or whatever
they’d wanted to be in the first place. That’s when you started reading stories
about the percentage of the graduating class of Harvard College who planned to
go into the financial industry or go to business school so they could then go
into the financial industry. That’s when you started reading about these
geniuses from M.I.T. and Caltech who instead of going to graduate school in
physics went to Wall Street to calculate arbitrage odds.”

“But you still haven’t told me how that brought on the financial crisis.”

“Did you ever hear the word `derivatives’?” he said. “Do you think our guys
could have invented, say, credit default swaps? Give me a break! They couldn’t
have done the math.”

“Why do I get the feeling that there’s one more step in this scenario?” I said.

“Because there is,” he said. “When the smart guys started this business of
securitizing things that didn’t even exist in the first place, who was running
the firms they worked for? Our guys! The lower third of the class! Guys who
didn’t have the foggiest notion of what a credit default swap was. All our guys
knew was that they were getting disgustingly rich, and they had gotten to like
that. All of that easy money had eaten away at their sense of enoughness.”

“So having smart guys there almost caused Wall Street to collapse.”

“You got it,” he said. “It took you awhile, but you got it.”

The theory sounded too simple to be true, but right offhand I couldn’t find any
flaws in it. I found myself contemplating the sort of havoc a horde of smart
guys could wreak in other industries. I saw those industries falling one by one,
done in by superior intelligence. “I think I need a drink,” I said.

He nodded at my glass and made another one of those eyebrow gestures to the
bartender. “Please,” he said. “Allow me.”

I had received numerous sms, msn and facebook messages regarding Liverpool’s victory over Manchester United. I am absolutely lost for words. No, not by the incessant taunts by Liverpool fans which I can’t reply (we have basically taunted them for a good 20 years, I’ll forgive them on this count), but rather on the insanity and irrelevance of their taunts.

Here goes the funny taunts I got:

”Manchester United can suck my dick, liverpool rocks!”

<RL> For starters, Manchester United does not have a mouth to suck your dick. The closest thing they have to a mouth is the gate leading to the field at Old Trafford. And I’m rather sure you will look stupid thrusting your hips at a gate thrice bigger than you.

If you liverpool fans insist that they rock after being perennial non champions then I might have to agree that they really sucks rocks. I must say you do manage your expectations well.

”Torres tore Manchester United apart! Who’s off form now!”

<RL> Agreed that Torres have basically tore Manchester United into shreds for the past 3 meetings. But maybe you might want to relax. Cause the only silverware Torres won is the player of the month! Even Lee Bowyer won that before, so yah. Regarding off form, even a fifth grader will know that  we are 4 points ahead of liverpool after this loss AND we still have a home game against you guys.

”This feels great! We don’t win the league its also ok! As long we have beaten Manchester United”

<RL> Now now, a case of sour grapes eh? Ask Steven ”I have never won the BPL” Gerrard if he had a choice, would he want the title but losing both the games against Manchester United. The answer is obvious.

It’s just like saying ” money is not important”. But it really is because you don’t have the money that is what money is not important _|_.

Action: *Celebrating like mad*

<RL> I really can’t be a sour grape and taking away this victory from Liverpool. But Reina celebrating as though he has won the BPL? What would he do if he won the BPL?? SHAVE his head ala Laurant Blanc? And for those who do not know, he does not have much hair to start with.

Some might argue that Liverpool was the greatest club ever in England. But how can that be? We won in 20 years what you had to do in more than 50years. We won every single cup and title with neutral fans agreeing we played in style. Liverpool? As what our resident commentator Mr Ong Kaili said: ” Their style is utterly BORING.”

Yes on Sunday they had beaten us fair and square, but did they really play well? In fact the game was rather scrappy.

I remembered reading Liverpool fans telling Manchester United fans to come back after winning 18 titles. We have. Do visit us when you won 1.

I guess I have only 1 hobby in life. Which is football. This is really 1 of the sports which makes me excited. And Manchester United have always been a part of my family and me. I do not know why it affects me so much when Manchester United loses or wins (actually i know, butim lazy to blog about it), but it is something i really enjoy.

This sunday is the showdown between Liverpool and Manchester United. As all true soccer fans know, this have always been the match of the season. No matter what you want to argue, it does not get any bigger than Liverpool Versus Manchester United. Even Real Madrid Vs Barcelona is no where close. Don’t believe me? Go count the total number of fans of Liverpool and Manchester United.

In recent years we have had a few new rivals. Chelsea, Arsenal. It used to be Leeds, Liverpool and Manchester City. But due to the fact that in recent years Arsenal and Chelsea have been doing great, therefore we have some sort of rivalary with them. But whenever it is Manchester United Vs Liverpool, it makes my heart pump faster. Partly due to the fact that I have many Liverpool friends, thus if Liverpool wins, the taunting starts. Normally i just shut their mouth by saying ”League title, what?” or ”long time since you had any adrenaline rush eh? 20 years?”.

1 of the reasons why i hate liverpool is because they seriously play boring football. Many years have past, but their playing style is still like shite. It is a real waste that Gerrad is with Liverpool.  He is by far, the best midfielder in England. Maybe Lampard is better in the stats wise, but still i have always fancied Stevie G. Winning a cup is 1 thing, winning it the right way is another. They need a good British coach, or maybe someone like Arsene Wengerto really bring them up. Why? Because Liverpool is just like Manchester United, we do not buy players. We invest in players. We are unlike Chelsea, they have a different culture, that is why by buying players they succeed. Benitez have brought this culture to Liverpool, but it is not working. Because playing for Liverpool have always been about the heart, and the love for the club, the unity between players. I am proud to say, Sir Alex have instilled this culture in Manchester United, in fact Sir Matt Busby have stand by this culture too. How many years do you have to wait for another Stevie G, if you don’t build some more young and good players around him, then the only way Liverpool will ever become dominant is by buying their way up. Which also means to spend more money than they do now, cause they are not successful after spending so much money in the past few seasons.

This weekends game is a little tricky. I hate it that Manchester United is meeting Liverpool when they are wounded. Plus liverpool will be playing at home and this game holds a lot of meaning. Thus I feel that it is relly dangerous time to play them. Of course, team sheet, form, standard wise, we are ahead of them. But as we all know, football is not rationale. Remember how we broke Chelsea and Arsenal records? It always works this way, when 2 good teams meet, the not in form 1 always wins. Hopefully this season we will do better than last. Though i dont mind losing to liverpool if we are going to win the title again.

I hope Owen will be playing. If he does, I hope Rooney and he will score (and of course we win lah). This will definitely make me very happy.

I remembered mentioning to Chenghan, that times have change. What do I mean when i say times have change. Of course, time is ever changing. Time does not wait for people. But what I actually meant was that, we are O-L-D.

Actually no (we are still young lah!)… Just read on…

During my Primary school and Secondary school days, I dare say that most people in school spoke Chinese. More likely than not, the common characteristics of my school mates family is ”Hokkien speaking parents working in some hard job”. So when we gather in school, most likely everyone starts to speak in Chinese. In fact, I remember those who spoke english were often laugh at. Come to think of it, I only can remember a few that spoke English in school, 1 of them was Jocelyn ”Shakespeare” Foon Fong Ling (can’t really remember her name). HAHAAHA. Often in class, she was the odd 1 out. We called her Shakespeare cause she always spoke in English and fiak all the english words which we don’t know (actually I did, my vocab was all right, but to blend with Guowen, I had to lower my standard).

Another guy i remembered in Primary school. His name was Josh Koh. He was from a well to do family, and he stayed at Orchid Park Condo. So in class he also fiak his english. I cannot tahan, so I always disturb him in class. I didnt really like his name, and actually i couldnt really pronounce so I always call him ”John” Koh. So everyday in class i will disturb him like ”Hey JOHN Koh, kan ling yang!” ”JOHN Koh, speak Chinese! Count to 10 in Chinese!!”. I was quite lame, but I was young, so I didnt know that maybe i did hurt him with my words. But though a group of us always taunt him, he was still in our group. I think we also damn ji siao, cause really always disturb him. 1 fine day, I still remembered, during recess, he punch me. Cause i think i ji siao him until he damnn angry. Most funny thing is, he punch me and my teeth drop (in primary school, milk teeth leh). So I was ushered to the dentist, but most importantly, i DIDN’t cry. In primary school a lot of people cry 1 ok. But i DID NOT. After going to the dentist, I damn angry, cause this fella punch me in front of my favourite girl – Alicia. So i cheong go back, biting the cotton wool in my mouth, i kick him in the back. HAHAHA. Ok that was funny while i think back. He stood back up, and then he said ”tomorrow meet at the school field, 1 on 1”.

Though the tyrant that I am, I was actually quite scared. Cause as you guys should know, I was rather small (my size, not my manhood) when I was young. This Josh guy was lke twice my size. So i was kinda worried. The night before i had to do some emergency training. I lied my mattress against the wall and hit it like a punching bag. After hitting it for a couple of hours, I convince myself that I was ready for ”John the english boy”.

The next day, I met him at the field. And we had a judge, the judge was my best friend in Primary school – Foo Jiesheng. So we started fighting. My plan was simple, he was fat, so all i just hit him and run around. As we said we will fight for 5mins, my theory was that, if he can’t catch me, he can’t beat me. So I layed that first punch on his fat belly. He whince in pain, woohooo, i was thinking ”damn shiok”. I gave him a few more punches and ran around. It was obvious i was weakening the big fat monster. I got so carried away that I even chut my ”flying kick”. But as we know, God is fair, he manage to grab my leg and threw me to the ground. Wah seriously, painful sia. Luckily, the judge is my best friend, so he said ”TIMES UP!”. If not you guys wouldnt be enjoying my very enjoyable company now. In the end, I kiss and made up with John, but still, everyday we were laughing at him. Now when I think back, of course i feel guilty cause i still remembered that though we kept making fun of him, in Primary 6 during his birthday, he even invited us to a party at his house. Hahha. Sorry Josh.

This was a loong story, but still read on…

As i step into JI, the culture sort of change. I guess we were lucky, most of the guys came into the same class. The guys I’m mentioning is the guys whom have more or less the same culture. Not those JC  english speaking sort of guys. So in this sense we were lucky. But in JI, I would say that more people spoke english. Maybe because they came from better schools, but they screw up somewhere and landed in JI.

As i walked into the working society, i was somehow flooded with ang mor wanna-bies. The more slang, the more sud. The more you got western, the better. Didnt you all forgot that our ancestors were from China? Or you prefer the British rulers wahahaha.

Whenever i go orchard now, I see a lot of english potato. They look like french fries walking around orchard. I think its because nowadays most parents are graduates. So their hokkien, chinese cannot make it. And they think english is cool, so they speak english at home, and then their children only know how to speak english. And the worst thing is, they think speaking in chinese is ah beng or uncle. Yea, we uncle and ah beng, u small kid, spg and act high class WAHAHAHA.

Maybe we sound rude or even not ”classy”. But hey, u guys follow the westernise culture so much that i suspect if you have an identity. You go ”wah, Brad Pitt! Tom Cruise!” The only thing i can associate is, you’ve got Beyonce’s pot-belly!

The other time i was at spinelli, again see such a group of young punks speaking english in slang and then act like they gangster. Then they were smoking, but the funniest thing was they were not using their hands to hold the ciger. Instead they use a pen to hold it. 1 word – Funny.

I have actually nothing against them. Just complaining a little, and telling a story or 2 to you guys. Nothing much, just another normal post.

Share this with you guys, think have not share it before. Keep the morale going.

“Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up.
It knows it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed.
Every morning a lion wakes up.
It knows it must outrun the slowest gazelle or it will starve to death.
It doesn’t matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle.
When the sun comes up, you better start running”.

-African proverb

Run, walk or stand still. Your life, your choice.

Friday friday, don’t you just love friday. Friday means it is the end of the week. Which also means its 2 days of non working days and 2 days of football to watch.

Time seems to put passing at a very fast rate. Suddenly it is October already. Time just seems to fly like ‘’snap”. Before you know it, you are gone with the wind.

Recently 1 of my top idol keep getting on the news – Sir Alex. He have been criticise for lambasting Ref Wiley. I cannot agree more that he have gone a bit overboard. I mean, maybe he is not such a good ref (actually i think ref Wiley should be respected, being 49 and being able to run like him is already very good), but don’t 人身公鸡 lah. Not so nice right, especially if you are 1 of the highly respected managers in the league. Many young kids look up to you.

But of course I have to defend him a little. Being a passionate man, he does not like losing. And when he does, most of the times, he wont blame himself. He will blame it on the field, the weather, the traffic jams, or even the prawn sandwich brigade. So this time, unluckily for Mr Wiley he chose to blame it on him. Did Mr Wiley have a good game (sunderland game) ? Actually I felt he was ok. Ok as in, he does not deserve the strong criticism. Maybe it was a foul on Foster in the 2nd goal, but I think if a foul was called, it was a soft foul.

Secondly, obviously we have a very bad game so Fergie might want to lessen some media attention on that. Foster was like his namesake, foster beer, he was giddy the whole game. I like this Foster guy, you know with a name like ”Ben”, you just want to be his friend. But his performance have led me to miss Taibi. At least Taibi makes  me laugh out loud haha. Foster makes me wanna kill him!

To add, Sir Alex, might just want to take a little pressure off the team for playing such a lousy game. So he shoot his mouth as he know by doing that, all the media a-ten-cent (attention) will be on him.

Anyway he have apologised (seems half hearted though), so I hope the FA does not give him a touchline ban. Many people have criticise that Sir Alex being who he is, gets away with many things he says. I agree, in fact I totally agree he gets better treatment. But this is how it works, if you are influential, of course you get better treatment. We see this everyday, whether in the office or even at home.

Let’s get on with it! The BPL season seems to be rather exciting soon. With Man City playing well, we might just be able to see the big 4 being broken up. If any of the big 4 fails to qualify for the Champions League, Im sure there is a lot of repurcussion. And it will be interesting to see how it will be handled. Liverpool or Arsenal seems likely candidates to be overtaken by Man City. Not forgetting the ever crazy Tottenham and Martin O Niell’s Aston Villa. Though I doubt this 2 team stand a better chance than Man City. Imagine Liverpool not inside the CL, will their finance crumble? Will top players like Torres leave them? I think the debts in the big 4 are huge. And I really think they cannot afford not to qualify for the CL. So bless whichever team which gets overtaken by Man City!

Since this year a lot of people getting married, i will like to talk about marriage. I will give my 2 cents base on my experince, on what i see in other people’s marriage, on what i see with people whom are going to get married or just got married. It’s solely my 2 cents, nothing to get worked up with, if you don’t agree or am frustrated please press alt + F4 now. Of course my views might just slant to a guy’s views, but i’ll try my best.

What is the purpose of marriage? I think many people think it this way. ”We get married because we love each other, and want to spend the rest of our lives together.” Funny thing is, you don’t need a certificate to do that, don’t you. You can jolly well love each other till the end of time and spend the rest of your lives together till your skin gets saggy. Then why do people still get married?

I guess there a numerous reasons that people take the plunge, which might not be communicated to the said partner – for reasons obvious.

For guys, its obviously the free sex. Come on, where can you get free sex without condom except with your wife. Jokes aside, i think men marry because they want to have children to continue their family name.  Men also marry because they want someone to help out in the family, like doing some minor household chores, taking care of some domestic matters which women are generally (yes generally, some girls really cant do shite) good at.

For girls, they marry because i guess they want some form of security. Security in terms of commitment and in monetary sense too. They also want to marry because they want someone to always protect/care for them.

The above is rather short, but here comes the main part. Why do humans marry then?

I think most people marry because they scared they are lonely when they are old (which is stupid, because there is always batam). Some marry because the culture says that we must all marry. Being unmarried means you are ‘’strange”. Means that you must be something wrong. Funny how narrow minded people can be right. Marriage is a choice, its like which car you want to buy, the difference is, this choice is a VERY important choice. So if someone does not find the car he really like, i think he won’t buy, cause a car cost tens of thousand. Same applies for marriage, if you don’t find someone whom you really want to marry, why marry? As said above, some people get pressured to marry, so yah, they marry for the wrong reasons.

Thing is people generally are weak. When the culture says, we as people must marry if not we are some sort of alien, then people buy into it. So when you see your surrounding friends getting married, you feel stress. If you were my friend, i will say that you dont have to be stress. Ask your friends, why do they marry? Why is the guy/girl you met in the morning selling you newspapers not the one but the one you are going to marry is the one?

Few answers they might give you are:-

1) Marry cause its time lor, together so long already.

2) Must buy hdb leh, Governement say need to form family nucleus.

3) She/he is the one lah, if not who? (funny why your friends normally will ask you a question whereby they should know the answer themselves).

4) Marry only what, why so serious, if cannot divorce lah, nowadays normal to divorce lah. (i love this answer, very cool till you want to strangle the person.)

5) Friend: ”Pregnant.” Randy: *Speechless and nodding in agreement*

Of course there are still many comical answers i have heard. But i guess you readers get the drift. People marry for the wrong reasons!

So what are the right reasons. My views are, I will marry the person because (note that I am not talking about the characteristic of what my wife should be):-

1) I love her.

2) She gets along with my family. This is important because, if not why people say marry into the family. If my gf marries INTO my family, she must get along with my family, and that is 1 of the reason i will marry her.

3) She adds value to my life.

4) As a seperate entity we do not do better than as A entity. Don’t get too confuse, some people i’ve seen, i feel that if they were single, they might just lead a better life than if they had a gf/bf.

5) I love her.

6) I want to fulfill her needs. For example, if her need is to have a form of security e.g marriage, and i feel the desire to fulfill it.

7) To give my girlfriend a official status as Mrs Lim.

8 ) Because i want to spend a chunk of my life protecting her, and caring for her. Why? because she is  part of my life, not as a liability but as an asset (i know its not nice to put it this way, in terms like this, but im just trying to let you guys get the drift). So if you have an asset, would you protect it ? I would. In fact if I have an asset i want it to be legally binded to me, thus marriage.

Sometimes when I see some of my friends/ relatives getting married. But not for the right reasons, but they act as though they very happy. I feel sad. Is it because there is children thus the marriage is not broken? Or is it because of the house? Of course nothing is perfect, I’m worried too that what if I have nothing to talk with my wife in future. What if there is no more love. But love is something kept at the very bottom of your heart, it does not always appear, sometimes something must happen before you feel it. So communication is the key, only communication can unlock this love.

I hope everyone a blissful marriage (politically correct phrase to say, to save a few criticism). I hope you marry for YOUR right reasons, and most importantly your partner SHARES the same reasons. You only have 1 life, hopefully 1 marriage partner, make it work and make it good.

就这样牵着你一直走, 我不怕别人怎样说我

I hear say that 2012 will be doomsday. Coupled with the new hollywood show next month regarding 2012’s doomsday, think everyone really have a field day talking about it. Funny how people like to predict the day the world will come to an end. I guess it would, since the world is a ”living thing”. But i doubt its in our life time. Anyway I have always believed that there are some secret scientist whom have a really good picture about our earth resources, and they have back up plans for the future of mankind. 1 of the interesting solutions is that we reside in another planet which is similar to earth. Very interesting indeed.

The current weekend that just ended, I went to Jx wedding. This year seems to be lot s of weddings going on. Next few years i think will attend more and more and more. If the weddings is regarding some aquaintance, then more likely than not, it will be boring. But if the wedding involves close friends, most of the time it is quite fun and happy event. Anyway, to summarise, i think Jx wedding did not have much hiccups, which was really a good thing. Hope after marriage, he would take his life a tad more serious and have good planning.

Have not really much to update in life, most of the lads have found jobs. Gw especially looks happy in his job currently, and im also happy for him, long may that last. Work hard, and tell us a couple of jokes in the next meet up.

For myself, I have nothing much to add, relationship wise, everything have been going smoothly. Of course nothing in life is perfect, life is full of ups and downs. 甜的吃，苦的也吃 haha!

As you guys must have known, I have been sick since saturday. I have not been sick for a very long time. Since like 5-6 years ago. In fact I don’t even remember when was the last time I was sick.

Being sick really sucks, you feel so weak that you don’t have mood for anything. Even when you want to sleep also not comfortable cause you feel restless or irritated.

But actually the people around me also have a lot of credit to take. Cause they had to put up with my nonsense when i was sick. Cause most of the time i was impatient and easily irritatable. I fully appreciate it and was even spoon fed (I was really sick ok).

This coming Saturday is Jx wedding. So the dress code is white top, black pants and any tie. I am going to wear a grey tie, funny thing is, i so old already but still do not know how to tie a tie (tie a tie sounds cool). Its ok, think early morning, ask Mr Cai to tie for me. And I dont think i want to drink much either, firstly i confirm going to drive. I chop my leg i also will drive because i cannot drink. I think i become ah gua, whatever man, cause i dont want to fall sick again. Fall sick i feel so tortured, and i confirm its the alcohol thats why i heaty and then high fever. Ok quit drinking, quit smoking, more swimming, more sports!!

Hmm a lot of expensese to spend this month. But no choice, these money cannot save 1 also lah. Must earn more man.

My brain is not working like before. Think i was too sick already. Please give me full recovery ok!